The Proposal

Loneliness can be a complete and utter bitch...Trust me, I know. I have been single for over a year now. That's single and born again celibate since I'm not getting any either.

Desperate times calls for desperate measures, which is exactly why I found myself recently attempting to lower my standard...Maybe I have set them too high, but then again, it is my life and love life at that. I can afford to be picky, right?

But that knee-jerk, or maybe pre-meditated, action set into motion a topic that I would like to discuss.

Would you rather be lonely or with a person that you know does not love you?

As stated earlier, being lonely is hard. You look and see your friends enjoying the company of their someone special, and you only have a chilly bed and frumpy pillow that will never suffice. You begin to feel like Rachelle Ferrell when she states in "Nothing in the Middle", strangers on my telephone and crickets in my bed. You want, need and yearn that somebody to call your own; someone to occupy space in this world with you when the vast empty darkness of your bedroom envelopes around you.

Conversely, having someone to share your life with will help lighten your load. You can call them at two o'clock in the morning and know that they will pick up on the third ring, and even though they will have to be at work at eight, you know that for them to hear your voice and you theirs is a blessing. Don't get me wrong, couples have their ups and downs...hell even 'round and 'round at times. Being out of your mind is better when there is two, right?

Wrong...when you are in a relationship with someone that does not reciprocate the same amount of love as you, what would be the point of you wasting your time? Sometimes being in a relationship is lonelier than being alone (Let that ass marinate on that). If they're not the one for you, then what are you to them but their advantageous conquest or whatever means they are seeking to finagle from you.

Most of the time in those situations, the person is trying to take what they can before they hit the road. But when you are alone, you can truly see you for you. You begin to recognize what you like and dislike. By doing this, you add to yourself by improving what you feel is necessary. Hey, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else, and that might be cliche' but my dear it is an age old fact. That ole' cold bed and limp pillow don't seem so bad after all.

Peace and Blessings

God is Love

Up-and-Coming Author Dapharoah69

I am completely elated and enthralled. While perusing youtube for videos about the late great E. Lynn Harris, I came across this refreshing new author by the name of Dapharoah69, whose real name is Larry Wilson, Jr; but he is the self-proclaimed "King of Erotica".

He has a slew of books on Barnes and Nobles and Amazon. His latest is sure to be a captivating tale which is entitled, "Call Her Queen Hatshepsut"; which I might add that I cannot wait to read.

Check out his youtube page here.

And also a interview from gbmnews.com

The Disappearance of Black Love

I could talk about Black Love ad nauseam. Just the thought fills me with a warm feeling. I love to see two consenting adults together and in it to win it; and you bets believe against all odds.

See, I had always heard while growing up that famous Blacks always married outside of the race, being that their mentality becomes different from their peers. Many engagements that they would attend had far too few Blacks and created a void only to be filled by White, Hispanic, Indian or what have you.

Now, by no means am I a racist, but I can identify with Jill Scott when she told Essence magazine in the April 2010 edition, "I felt my spirit...wince", while referring to Black men dating outside of the race. There is a sudden pinch to your soul when you see a good Black man proclaim his love for a person of another race.

Scott goes on to say, "Black women and Black men struggled together". Black people as a race have triumphantly overcome slavery, racism and prejudices. So, when a Black woman, or man, sees a Black man with another race, it equates to a slap in the face; a mighty blow from turning on your own kind when others tried to rape, torture and destroy us.

Nevertheless, if fame was not enough of a reason to date outside of the race, hate is...Black women always have attitudes. Black men don't wanna raise their kids. You're too dark. You're hair is too coarse. These are simple concepts that get leaked down to the next generation by way of the present. We do not understand that we are destroying our race with these derogatory comments. What are the children suppose to think?

They do what we tell them. They have children by Whites just so their child can have more European features. They permanently relax their hair because we have taught them that it is not okay to wear it natural. Pretty soon, they forget who they are. They forget that their ancestors come from Africa. They forget that the skin that they are in is beautiful and bronze and golden just like the gods and kings and queens of Kemet, or Ancient Egypt. They forget that we were taken from our land and brought here as slaves.

It is up to us to rectify our own undoing...

Alas, if love is true and love is sufficient, then it can be found with any race or any gender. But love should never be forced. Love should never be a product of your posh environment because love, true love, is more grandiose than any of us on this planet. God is Love, and if He is love then we simply must wait until He manifests it into our lives.

Peace and Blessings

God is Love

The Ricky Ricardo Illusion

One of my all time favorite shows happens to be I Love Lucy. Aside from the frivolous attempts of the main character, one aspect always caught my attention. No matter what Lucy got into, her man was always close by to offer love, support, and oftentimes knowledge.

That man was of course, Ricky Ricardo; a Cuban nightclub singer with a sunny disposition. He was optimistic and usually wore his feelings right on his suit coat. He showed his love and compassion to Lucy whether she was right or wrong; which she was 9 time out of 10 the latter.

The onscreen romance was blissful and heaven sent. Ricky and Lucy were the ideal couple. They completed each other, and he was her ying and she his yang; a perfect and equal union.

So I sat and wondered..."Damn, does this really happen? Is there someone out there to complete little ole me?" Clearly the drama and theatrics were hyperboles, but the main structure of the show had to have been derived from a real life situation. Evidently hundreds of thousands of us were doing something right.

But let me leave tinseltown for a minute...

Ricky Ricardo was Desi Arnaz and Desi, as we all know, was married to Lucy or, Lucille Ball. Their real life marriage was not all quirky mishaps and make-ups, but had ended in divorce due to Desi's drug and womanizing problems.

The question I want to know is; do we conceptualize what we want love to be based on any form of the media?

Are you in search of a Ricky Ricardo or are you prepared to handle a Desi Arnaz?

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This Movie...I Just Can't Wait

Apparently, I am late on books and modern authors but there is one that I am yearning to get my hands on. It is called "Push" by Sapphire. The book is a tale of a young female by the name of Claireece Precious Jones. Now, obviously I can not tell you what the book is about being that I have not read it, or hell heard of it until recently. But "Push" was made into a movie by director Lee Daniels and entered into the Sundance Film Festival 2009. The movie was seen by Tyler Perry, who pitched it to Oprah; and both present the movie "Precious".

"Precious" will be in theaters November 6, 2009.
***Notable celebs included: Mariah Carey, Monique, Lenny Kravitz, Sherri Sheperd, and Paula Patton

THE OFFICIAL TRAILER








{Description from Yahoo Movies}

Clareece "Precious" Jones is an overweight, illiterate African-American teen in Harlem. Just as she's about to give birth to her second child, Jones is accepted into an alternative school where a teacher helps her find a new path in her life.





Here is the audition tape from newcomer Gabourey Sidibe who stars as Precious....



This girl has talent....ENJOY!!!!!!!!!!

A Blockbuster...Indeed

The tyrant Tyler Perry is at it again with his newly converted stage play-to-movie entitled, " I Can Do Bad All By Myself". I am enthralled at how progressive he is and am appreciative of his work. " I Can Do Bad All By Myself" hits theaters September 11, 2009. Oh, last but not least, Mary J. Blige is rumored to be a part of the new film.